Suck It Up, November

How is November over?

No, seriously. I blinked and Thanksgiving happened and now it’s almost December. It’s been a blur.

Anyhow, the penultimate month of sucking it up. Can’t wait to write what I’m going to do for 2018.

So, what was I up to this month? Here’s how I did on my goals:

1) Take family and personal health seriously.

What does that look like? I want to:

a) Cook at least 5 meals a week.

Yes. Still doing well on this. I am particularly pleased because when we visited my brother during Thanksgiving, my kids actually ate foods they don’t normally eat and were minimally assholish about food. This made it much easier for me to relax and enjoy the time spent with my brother’s family.

I firmly believe that me cooking so much and training them to eat food even if they think it’s gross has helped. The other contributing factor is my mother continuing to take my kids out on a weekly basis to eat lunch. She has done all the hard work of civilizing my feral children and I have reaped all the rewards.

b) Be active once a week.

Did I walk this month? I must have. But our preschool was on break so I think I did not walk as often as I used to. Plus, it’s finally gotten cold and dreary. No, thanks.

c) Wash face and brush teeth twice daily.

Still pretty regularly washing my face in the morning and slathering on the sunscreen but again, failing on the night time routine. My skin has stopped being as soft and glowy.

d) Take vitamins and supplements.

Despite buying a pill box (Amazon affiliate link) on Amazon, I have not used it. So, I have totally failed this month with the pills. It’s really because I cannot stand the smell of the omega oils pills. It smells like the prenatals I used to take and it totally makes me gag.

Suck it up, Self. This is supposed to make my bones un-hollow.

e) Go to sleep when the kids sleep 4x a week.

I have not done well with this sleep thing this month. Between staying up late several weeks in a row for writing deadlines and then staying up late to read because stupidity, I failed failed failed.

But I got in a lot of important stuff!

f) No texting while driving.

FINALLY! A win! I give myself a B+. I don’t know why I was better. Possibly because I didn’t drive for a week when I visited my brother. But also, for some reason, my FOMO didn’t act up.

2) Take my responsibilities as a grown up seriously.

It took me 90 minutes to fold 4-5 loads of laundry the other day. It made me sad. But it likely would not have taken so long if I had just folded it right away in the first place.

I hired my handyman again to fix a lot of random stuff (my kids keep providing this man so much business). I also actually cleared my house so the housecleaners could deep clean parts of my house. So, I consider that winning.

I FINALLY filled out the forms to get reimbursed from our homeschooling charter school. It’s about $2500 total between the older two kids for this semester so I’ve been an idiot for procrastinating.


We all know that I’m usually an asshole so I am very pleased that I was not. I was a decent human being.

Therapy works.

I think I may go out and buy a lottery ticket. Oh, wait. Therapy has not yet made me lose all sense of math.

Oh, and I even remembered to buy Christmas presents for my kids’ teachers ahead of time this year instead of during their last class before break. WIN!

3) Write.

I did awesome again this month. Now, it may not seem so because I didn’t actually post that much, but I did do a lot of writing. As I mentioned last month, I booked several paid gigs so I wrote those.

I also submitted speaker proposals to two conferences and got TWO speaking gigs at Type A 2018! I am moderating a panel on How to be a Dope Facebook Group Admin with Brittany Minor of Clumps of Mascara and Michelle D. Johnson Garrett of Divas with a Purpose. Then, I am also speaking on How to Unleash Your Creativity Through the Delicate Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

Now, I just have to combat Impostor Syndrome and tell myself that I deserve these things and I am qualified to be there! I will find out from the second conference this week to see if I got those.

Truthfully, though I am beyond excited to get the speaker gigs, I am MOST pleased about actually applying. I was nervous but then I decided that if I don’t ask, the answer will always be, “No.”

I want more YES in my life.

I also worked and edited my first paid piece in the online magazine, Hold the Line. I actually received the nicest REJECTION letter from their editor. Well, I suppose it technically it was not a rejection because she suggested I rework the piece until it was less sucky, but I could have taken it as a rejection and stopped, versus putting in the work to make it better.

I am grateful to Dots, who helped me IMMEASURABLY with the second draft. I am also amazed at how much a professional editor can change a word or two to make me sound intelligent! It is so cool!

I can’t wait to tell you guys when it publishes. It’s a paid magazine, but it’s so worth it. That way, they can pay their writers which is quite a rarity in the online space. Especially for a new magazine.

I am super excited to tell you folks about my next year’s goals so look out for it soon. How have you been doing for your new year resolutions? Still going strong? One more month to go! Don’t write off 2017 just yet. There is still time.

Let me know in the comments.

Suck It Up, October

How is October over?

This month has been super stretching for me – lots of sucking it up, so to speak. Which is good. It hasn’t been comfortable and I haven’t slept enough this last week or two so I’ve been super cranky.

But I’m glad.

Too often, the last quarter of a year seems like a lame duck period for me. I’m looking forward to next year, trying to plan ahead and gear up for it. The year isn’t over yet but I kinda want it to be over because NEW THINGS!! SO EXCITING! It is so tempting to just let the next few months slide and start over in the bright and shiny new year.

This year, I’m going to end my year of Sucking it Up with a BANG.

So, what was I up to this month? Here’s how I did on my goals:

1) Take family and personal health seriously.

What does that look like? I want to:

a) Cook at least 5 meals a week.

Still plugging along as usual. Next year, I may have to expand my repertoire because I think my kids are getting bored. They look forward to the weekends because then they don’t have to eat what I cook.


However, I did introduce Cookie Monster to the over medium egg with a dash of soy sauce on it and he LOVES them. Gamera has always liked fried eggs but it’s a new thing for him. It reminds me of my childhood and my parents frying eggs for us on the occasional lazy weekend morning so I’m really pleased he enjoys them.

b) Be active once a week.

I am still walking Glow Worm to and from preschool at least once a week so I WHOOO! IN YOUR FACE, INACTIVITY!

c) Wash face and brush teeth twice daily.

I’m still pretty good about washing my face in the morning and slathering on the sunscreen but I am like, 1 in 5 on washing my face at night. I don’t want to talk about brushing teeth anymore.

d) Take vitamins and supplements.

Again, I am good about remembering 1 in 4 days? The problem is that I will remember a few days in a row, then forget. Mostly because all the days run into each other and I think I have taken them when I haven’t. I really should be like those old people and lay out the pills in a pill box so I can tell if I have.

Ok. I just bought one (Amazon affiliate link). So ridiculous. So necessary.

e) Go to sleep when the kids sleep 4x a week.

I did okay on this. These last two weeks, I had a few writing deadlines so I stayed up really late several nights in a row and it wrecked me.


I need to take my body seriously and become more efficient. Because I am no longer a young college co-ed. I’m a middle aged homeschooling SAHM of four.

f) No texting while driving.


2) Take my responsibilities as a grown up seriously.

I FINALLY cleared out (well, not entirely, but mostly) my laundry room. It was getting ridiculous. We could no longer even access the laundry machines and it was a bit dangerous.

Now, I have to sort out the last remaining big bag of crap, but in general, it is no longer a safety hazard. WHOOOOO!



3) Write.

I did really well on this again.

I finally finished a professional bio for a friend, wrote and submitted to a few sites, and several companies approached me to partner with them. I even pitched a few companies to partner with them.

So, when I say writing, I mean the BUSINESS of writing. And this month, I did a LOT on my business. I will have a separate, more involved post on this later, but in short, I hired Brandi Riley for her coaching services and she kicked my ass (and business) into a higher gear.

Because of her, I have already earned more in this month than I ever have, and have already recouped my cost of her coaching. Brandi is worth every penny and every minute and every second.

If you’re not sure about getting her one on one coaching and just want to check her out in action first, she runs a (affiliate link) Courage to Earn MORE Facebook group that has a few spots left for the months of November and December.

Brandi is the reason I am a few steps closer to my dreams of being internet famous.

Alright, that’s it for me this month. As usual, some there is an ebb and flow to my successes and failures. How did you do at the start of Q4?

Suck It Up, September

How is September over?

Every month, I am surprised that it’s time for this post. And every month, I’m astonished at just how mediocre I am at keeping up on the things I want to do (except the cooking part). Can you imagine how bad I would be if I didn’t make them a priority and keep track of it?

I guess that’s a lesson in and of itself.

Anyhow, without further ado, here’s what I wanted to work on this year:

1) Take family and personal health seriously.

What does that look like? I want to:

a) Cook at least 5 meals a week.

As always, I’m doing well in this. Not because I enjoy it, but because I know it costs an arm and a leg to eat out with all my tiny humans. My kids complain that they prefer the weekends when Hapa Papa prepares them boxed mac and cheese (they FINALLY like it!), nuggets, and frozen pizza. I don’t let them eat that during the week because I know Hapa Papa is stuck with the kids for large swathes of time and that’s what he knows how to make.

I still can’t believe that we used to eat that stuff almost every other day. And now, I make lunch and dinner almost every day and it’s reasonable tasty and nutritious. We do eat leftovers now, too because I have finally managed to make larger serving sizes. However, the kids also complain mightily about that, too.

Too bad, kiddos. If we have food leftover, you’re going to eat it.

Oh, wait. Just realized that we have more leftovers now because Hapa Papa brings me dinner from his work every week night. Ha! I guess I haven’t improved as much as I thought!

b) Be active once a week.

I have started walking Glow Worm to and from preschool at least once a week so I guess that’s technically being active. WHOOO!

c) Wash face and brush teeth twice daily.

Sigh. I am slipping. I’m pretty good about washing my face in the morning and slathering on the sunscreen, but I’m getting less and less consistent with washing my face at night. But this is a good reminder to do so again.

d) Take vitamins and supplements.

I have been slacking on this, too. Really, it’s because one of the supplements I take uses the casings that smell like prenatal vitamins and it’s AWFUL. It makes me want to barf and my hand smells like it for hours afterwards and it’s really awful.

The rest of the stuff is fine, but I just can’t get past the smell of the one that is disgusting.

But I am exhausted and not feeling energized so I know I need to take my supplements more often. Plus, HOLLOW BONES.

e) Go to sleep when the kids sleep 4x a week.

I did okay on this. What happens now is that I am really energized to write and do blog stuff or stay up reading, and that kills several nights in a row until I’m so exhausted that I collapse when I put Sasquatch to sleep.

So, meh.

f) No texting while driving.

Meh. I am better but not great. WHY IS IT SO HARD???

2) Take my responsibilities as a grown up seriously.

I’ve done okay on this. Although now that I think about it, I definitely could do better. I am behind on a few things.

My English books in my office.

HOWEVER, I did move the bookshelves from our closets into the new office and moved all my English books there. I also had Guavarama come and reorganize my Chinese book shelves now that Fleur brought over a lot of my books that she was storing for me as Bebe was making her way through them.

Plus, my kids destroyed some parts of our house and I called the handyman the same day and he came to fix it! And he’s the one who moved my shelves from the closets to the office and bolted them to the wall. I also finally remembered to add a window screen to the kids’ room.

My Chinese books finally sorted again! Fleur still has a bunch of my books but we left some space for them.

Oooh! And I finally bought better sheets and a duvet and duvet covers and washed them! Yay to no more microfiber sheets for the full bed because it traps heat and Gamera keeps getting headaches.

I also angry purged and the kids’ toys and finally lugged the 6+ garbage bags of clothes to the donation center. I even semi-sorted my kitchen table.

Hmmm. I guess I adulted more than I thought. WHOOOO!

3) Write.

I did really well on this again although I always wish for more time despite my not maximizing it. Plus, I got lots of ideas churning around in my head that I’m excited about.

Now, I just have to write even more.

Alright, that’s it for me this month. How are you doing on your resolutions? Is 2017 living up to what you thought it would be?