Why is it so much easier to get enthusiastic and gushy over my friends? I mean, it helps that I have awesome and talented friends – but why am I so reluctant to toot my own horn?
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Now, many of you might think that I actually have NO problem tooting my own horn since I do talk about what I’m doing a lot as well as promote (affiliate link) my book. (Ahem. Please go buy one now if you have not yet bought one. Not teaching your kids Chinese? I FAIL TO SEE THE PROBLEM.)
But it is only recently that I’ve decided to own my expertise. To acknowledge that writing a book and publishing it and making money on it (even here, I have to resist to qualify the amount of money I’ve made on it!!) WHILE PREGNANT and then while homeschooling my other three children and life in general – THAT IS IMPRESSIVE!
I have to force myself to shake out of Impostor Syndrome and accept that I did (and do) awesome things. I am capable of doing hard things. I have done hard things and I continue to do hard things.
Did you know I was president of a 40 person internet marketing firm by the time I was 23? Even saying this out loud so baldly and matter of factly feels like bragging.
But why?
It’s true. It’s a part of my story.
Telling the truth is not bragging.
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Is it because I am a woman? And an Asian American woman on top of that? Where self-deprecation and false humility are socially acceptable but confidence and the demand to be taken seriously are not?
Fuck that shit.
I’m awesome, people. And I am no longer afraid to let people know.
